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"Any idea when you're speaking to the Haim sisters?" a text reads. "I wanted to ask if I can become their newest bandmate."

There's just a key snag: The author likewise longs to be Haim's additional sibling. And we're far from alone. A host of high-profile admirers have publicly begged for the honor.

It's clear an irresistible appeal is happening. The siblings Este, Danielle and Alana started their musical journey playing gigs at local delicatessens with their family. Today, they are repeated Grammy hopefuls.

Similar to the most iconic groups, they're a inseparable gang. Their videos repeatedly show them walking in sync down the roads of Los Angeles. On stage, they play with such pure exuberance you inevitably think, "I wish to be a piece of that, too."

"How often on tour that young girls approached us and said, 'Seeing you perform, I bought a drum kit'," states Alana, the youngest of the trio. "That is the ultimate honor. It is a prize in itself. Our mission is accomplished if we can inspire young girls to start a band."

"Therefore all is invited to be the fourth Haim sister."

Historic Recognition

The group are speaking from their homes, where they're taking a pause after an lengthy tour in support of their latest album, I Quit.

They're right now processing the news it's been nominated for Best Rock Album at the Grammy Awards – with Haim the very first all-woman band ever in the running for the award.

"I tune into the announcements every year, so it kind of feels like an out-of-body experience when your name is read out," notes Alana. "I needed to phone my sisters to say, 'Did we just hear this right or am I imagining things'?"

The importance of the nomination is deeply felt by the band.

"We really set out to make a guitar-driven album this time, so it's a huge milestone," adds Alana. "Yet we're just grateful for the female artists that paved the way."

Personal Turmoil and Candor

The project came out of a time of transition. All three sisters were single, and the music captures that odd in-between place where you're happy to be free, but not quite ready to let go.

The lyrics detail breakups and goodbyes. The sisters seek love, but not the specific love they've had. You can hear them working out in real life who they are becoming.

"I adore way of putting it, yes," responds Danielle. "I Quit is like a slogan. You have to make an effort in ignoring the criticism and saying, 'I don't give what people think'."

Evolution of Music

That developed confidence called for a fresh approach – more unpolished and direct than any of the music the band had done before.

For Danielle, who co-produced the album, that began with the percussion.

"The drum sound is such a specific thing, and I care so much about it," she emphasizes.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the subject of our book," laughs Alana. "Our motto is, our albums don't start until we find the right drum sound."

Stories and Shared Laughter

The band's honesty shaped the album's promotional campaign, where the sisters revealed some of their romantic tales.

Someone broke up with Este over a health consideration. Alana shared a story of travelling to spend New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a casual gesture at midnight.

"During these heartbreaks, you just feel like there's no light," notes Alana. "So to be able to find humor in those stories and hear others tell you wilder stories, it's incredible."

A Confident Path

You can clearly sense a shift in the band. These days, Haim are more confident of their standing in the music world.

They're top-billed acts, with chart-topping albums and an worldwide audience.

But Haim will forever be their number one commitment.

"My sisters and I have been performing since I was four," says Alana. "It's like no other path that we were destined for. And I'm really fortunate we've gotten here and we're still making music."